Last week I had the pleasure of attending the SF version of the Tanqueray Style Sessions. These events are combination fashion show, mixer and fundraiser. During the night, in between blog battles with my colleague Karen, I wondered if charity needs to be "hip and stylish" for people to casually care? I define “casually caring” as something you do because:
1) Its easy to do 2) your friends are doing it 3) Bono is asking you to do it
Now I attended this event because I had semi-involvement in their charity auction AND I was accompanied by friends. In addition, the proceeds benefited the Creative Growth Art Center which is an amazing nonprofit in the Bay Area. So yes, those were all good reasons for attending. But I'm pretty sure I would've attended without those factors, since the night boasted cocktails,DJ's spinning tunes, beautiful people...duh, of course I'm in!
So back to my "casually caring" pondering…
I don't remember the last time someone said "hey, let's go volunteer 15 hours a week at our local soup kitchen" and I responded with an empathic YES! But I had no hesitation in buying 10 "ONE" bracelets and passing them out to friends as if I NEEDED to do it. Would I go the soup kitchen if I knew the cast of "Gossip
Girl" were going? Would I wear my best suit? It kinda sucks to question your own motives about doing good deeds, but at least it's honest. Bono would like that.
thoughts?












Comments
It's true..... unfortunately too many people get involved in good work and volunteerism based solely on it being a "cool" thing to do. Not necessarily bad though, at least they are getting involved even if for the "wrong" reasons. In fact, is there really such thing as a "wrong" reason if it is making a difference in someone's life?
This is why we need celebrities, musicians and people of influence to make charity work and environmentalism the new "it" thing. ;)
APRIL 7 2008 AT 12:58 PM
"Casual caring" is an excellent turn of phrase, I like it.
Anyway, I'm fine with casual caring, in the sense that it's a gauge of the public's values and priorities. Ideally, legislators and policy makers would see what people care about and act accordingly. So it's not so much that buying a trinket can save the world, but taking part in symbolic acts can shift public opinion, and by extension, can (or at least, should!) shift what our elected employees in Washington, DC do with their time.
APRIL 7 2008 AT 2:50 PM
I realize that the haste of my idealistic projections often falls short of my expectations. Even if it’s passive, at least it’s activism, right? Although I would love to say my involvement in my favorite causes is mostly “hands on,” I am guilty of pledging a dollar amount, flaunting a product, or buying green before I render my precious time... unless, of course, the active activism engenders a social activity. I think it’s true with everyone, unless Oprah tells you to do it.
APRIL 7 2008 AT 3:23 PM
I think we're all guilty of this to an extent...I personally am reluctant to do anything unless I really believe in it passionately. If I don't have a huge interest in it, I'm much more likely to just donate a dollar here and there instead of actively getting involved in something. I have lofty ideas ahead of time, and often fail to follow through. I guess you could say I'm a bit of a product of my generation :/
APRIL 7 2008 AT 11:07 PM
Ah, this is an excellent point and I like how you coined “casual caring.” I do agree that most people would rather do something “easy” and that others are doing, but I think it’s really important for us to find our way back to volunteering our time, which is really one of the most important and inexpensive donations—well at least monetarily! It’s so hard though because our time is so precious to us and we all lead such busy lives. I remember when I was back in high school my friends and I would enthusiastically volunteer just about ALL of our free time at local soup kitchens, after school programs, marathons for various causes and such. We were community service junkies! But once work and college took up our time we felt as though we lost our way a little bit. Sure we’d donate money here and there but it’s just not the same. I think it’s time for everyone to recognize this shift and do our best to make our way back to actively volunteering. You don’t need to start big. It could be a few hours one Saturday morning or a few hours after you get off work. =) Anything is better than nothing, and it’s always fun when you drag a friend along!
APRIL 8 2008 AT 1:42 PM
Roman, I WIN! Maybe that was the Tanqueray talking....
APRIL 8 2008 AT 2:02 PM
First, you and Karen look supremely fab in front of the Tanqueray sign!
Second... I think "casual caring" is hot. I'm all for anything that gets people engaged. And if it's a simple act, something you'd be doing anyway, and GOOD is generated from it, all the better!!! Now, I'm not discouraging people from spending more time/money on important issues for sure - by all means, please, everyone, do more. But the more bracelets, parties, t-shirts, whatever makes an impact, the merrier.
APRIL 9 2008 AT 12:24 PM